Of course, in celebrating your wedding, you want to wrap your guests in your love, embraced in your union. Joined together by your love and commitment to each other.
But truly, behind all the pomp and circumstance, you really just want your guests to enjoy themselves.
A notion expressed in your endless, mind warping searches and planning. The wedding, an accomplishment of that seemingly endless feat and the end result of your efforts as you seek out ways to invite, welcome, and show your gratitude to your friends and family.
What better way to thank and bring everyone together other than a particularly delicious adult beverage?
For myself, crafting -centered, frugal, to be quite honest, broke self, I cannot fathom the ability nor desire to offer my guests an open bar. Money aside, a wedding is not a ‘get-blasted’ event and my, mentally, young friends, go for gold when they hear the words, “free drinks.”
We ALL have those friends.
However, it makes so much sense to want to avoid sloppy. No wedding needs to be THAT entertaining and why spend all that money, time, and effort if your guests cannot remember beyond the mashed potato bar?
Instead, I jump fully on board the Signature Cocktail bandwagon!
A soul saver, as your inner selves fight the eternal battle between sticking to budget and wanting nothing but the most for those in attendance, signature cocktails allow gracious sincerity in welcoming guests while drawing them further into the event they are celebrating.
Your cocktail choices add such a personalization to the food and beverage scene of your wedding, allowing your personality as a couple to be share and showcased.
If you are a fun and flirty couple, with a lighthearted family, less likely to be offended at the mildly inappropriate, keep that ease and humor within your beverages.
Set up your “advice for the new couple table” beside the bar while on your signature cocktail board, sharing your thoughts on the secret to a happy marriage. Say… sex on the beach or , the ‘more realistic’ sex in the driveway, after all, who has time for beaches!?.
Not only a fun, colorful, fruity drink to serve for a summer wedding, but a nod to the hilarious.
Any bartender worth their salt, wedding planner with a keen eye, or DIY bride, can garnish, display, and present whatever cocktail you choose into a beautiful display. A sight to behold in making the act of drinking, more than the booze, but much like the wedding, a presentation, an experience, an event itself .
Regardless of display, let your guests in to experience small nuances in your relationship!
Poke fun at ironic or cute dynamics of you and your other half.. .
For myself, typically full of life, pep, fire if you will, always running a little hot, might choose a warm apple cider with a shot of Jack. Myself represented in a glass that warms you from the outside in. Whereas my partner, while full of life and love, moves a little slower, a little cooler tempered, sweet and easy going, might choose a Sweet Pear , to match his content, go- with- the- flow style.
Perhaps you’d rather share something you both enjoy. Instead of his and her-ing it, showcasing something you share together. Not a yours, not a mine, but an ‘ours’.
Maybe you both adore desserts and your most favorite of all evenings is snuggling down together with something sweet to indulge in. You might choose to serve a Nuts and Berries, dessert in a glass if there ever was one! The options are endless as you choose bride and groom combinations, seasonal, or theme carrying cocktails.
Maybe you won’t even serve your signature drinks at the bar or a separate display at all. Maybe you both come from close families with Sunday dinners growing up. By offering a Sangria or infused cocktail, bottled and presented on the tables, you can pay homage to your growing up, giving your guests a ‘family style’ beverage service, showing your appreciation and continuation of the tradition of gathering to eat, drink, and be merry.
The more you are able to incorporate these little moments, the more your wedding will reflect the individuality of you and your partner. Rather than being dwarfed in the memory, the monotony of, all the weddings to which your guests have been previously exposed.
So while, decoration and presentation of your signature cocktails is key in carrying a theme and adding personal touches to your reception, please please please, focus on the spirits or cocktails you choose to represent yourselves as well.
The way you choose to display your offerings adds character and originality to, sadly, what can become a mind numbing event of sameness as we attend one wedding after another.
In incorporating your style with colors and decor adorning the bar/serving space and showcasing your personalities, you allow continuity throughout the event, to celebrate your union, which in turn, creates a quiet elegance.
So let your signature cocktails take your guests by the hand and bring them to the unexpected! Forget the shock and awe response of an open bar to your budget friendly senses. Instead, remember what is truly important.
Your guests are there to celebrate you!
Signature cocktails allow the veil to be pulled back, to see beyond ‘the couple’ and ‘meet’ the individuals sharing their lives. By subtly sharing of yourself and your relationship in this way, you are allowing your guests to understand the spirit of what they are celebrating.
The personality and individualization of the two being joined.
And what better way to celebrate the happy newlyweds, than with a toast?